Terminations go wrong in the same predictable ways every time. Here is the exact process — documentation, delivery, and what not to say — that protects your company and treats the person with dignity.
Most founders have never been trained to fire someone. They've watched it happen or heard about it, and when the moment comes they either move too fast, say too much, or have no documentation to stand on. Terminations that get litigated are almost never the result of a bad decision to let someone go — they're the result of how that decision was executed. Here is the process that protects you every time.
Before the conversation: build your documentation
The termination conversation should never be the first time performance issues are on record. If you're terminating for performance, there should be documentation of: at least one verbal feedback conversation that was noted in writing (even a quick email summary to yourself or HR counts), a written warning or PIP if the issues were serious or ongoing, and a record of any accommodations or support offered. If you're terminating for a single serious incident (misconduct, policy violation, illegal behavior), document the incident immediately and specifically — date, time, what happened, who witnessed it, what was said. The documentation doesn't have to be formal. A timestamped email to your HR folder is enough. What it can't be is nonexistent.
The termination conversation: what to say and what not to say
The conversation should be short, clear, and final. It is not a negotiation and it is not a place to relitigate performance feedback. Here is the structure that works:
Opening: "I need to let you know that today is your last day with [Company]. We've made the decision to move forward without you in this role." Say this within the first 30 seconds. Do not build up to it — prolonging the opening makes it more painful for everyone and creates more opportunities for things to go wrong.
Brief rationale: Give one clear, factual reason. "The role has evolved in a direction that isn't the right fit" or "Your performance in [specific area] hasn't met the requirements of the role despite the feedback we've shared." Keep it to one sentence. Don't list everything that went wrong.
Logistics: Cover what happens next — final paycheck timeline, benefits continuation (COBRA notice), equipment return, system access cutoff. Have this in writing to hand them.
Close: "I know this is hard news. We'll make sure the transition is handled respectfully." Then stop talking. The instinct to fill silence with reassurance leads to statements that can be used against you later.
What not to say — ever
"We're eliminating your position" — unless you actually are. If you backfill the role in 60 days, this statement becomes evidence of pretext in a wrongful termination claim.
"We've had so many complaints about you" — even if true. Vague references to unspecified complaints without specifics are not defensible and open you to discrimination claims (someone will ask who complained and why).
"I personally wanted to keep you but was overruled" — this is never helpful and undermines the company's position if challenged.
"You should be able to find something quickly" or any other reassurance about their future prospects. It sounds kind but is legally meaningless and prolongs the conversation.
State-specific timing requirements you must know
Final paycheck timing varies by state and getting it wrong is an automatic violation. In California: final pay is due at the time of termination for involuntary terminations — not the next pay cycle, not Friday, right then. In New York: by the next scheduled payday. In most other states: by the next regular payday or within a set number of days. COBRA notice must go out within 14 days of coverage ending. If you use a PEO or payroll platform, confirm these deadlines with them before the conversation happens — not after.
Severance: when it makes sense and how to structure it
Severance is not legally required in most states — it is a business decision. But it's often worth offering in exchange for a signed separation agreement and general release of claims. The release significantly limits your exposure to a lawsuit, and for an employee who might otherwise hire an attorney, a few weeks of severance is often enough to resolve the situation cleanly. A typical formula: one to two weeks of pay per year of service. Have the agreement drafted by an attorney or use a properly reviewed template — a bad separation agreement is worse than none.
Termination support is one of Bevel HR's most common project engagements. We help you prepare the documentation, coach the manager through the conversation, handle the paperwork, and make sure the legal requirements are met. Most clients bring us in for the first few terminations and then feel equipped to handle routine ones themselves.